Comments on: Making Friends: An Example for Community http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/ The Best Days of My Life Thu, 09 Feb 2012 05:30:35 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: kristen cheney http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9319 kristen cheney Tue, 03 Nov 2009 04:24:57 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9319 i loved this post! i feel like i have community but not in the community in which i live, if that makes sense. i don't know that i have found my place here with a group of friends. i sort of float between many different groups which is great. i love knowing and having connections with many different people - they challenge me and help me to grow BUT it is hard not having a friend here who i totally connect with on multiple levels - a person who i feel comfortable showing the ugliness too who will still love me. i need to be more open and willing to trust to develop some of those relationships. i loved this post!

i feel like i have community but not in the community in which i live, if that makes sense. i don’t know that i have found my place here with a group of friends. i sort of float between many different groups which is great. i love knowing and having connections with many different people – they challenge me and help me to grow BUT it is hard not having a friend here who i totally connect with on multiple levels – a person who i feel comfortable showing the ugliness too who will still love me. i need to be more open and willing to trust to develop some of those relationships.

]]> By: saii http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9208 saii Wed, 28 Oct 2009 04:05:10 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9208 I find it so hard to make friends. Specially in the last year, I've felt like my social skills need so much improvement... :S I'm not sure about the reason why but I ask God to help me about it :S I find it so hard to make friends.
Specially in the last year, I’ve felt like my social skills need so much improvement…
:S
I’m not sure about the reason why but I ask God to help me about it
:S

]]> By: Paul http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9207 Paul Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:47:01 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9207 Sarah, I tweeted earlier in the day to you that I agree with you – what I mean is I agree we need friends who don't look act or always think like us. We'll be better off in the long run for this and I think our lives will be more effective. I do think our core friendships should be with believers but we should also count as friends those outside the church as well. I understand your comment about assessing future closeness – I'd say I expect too much in this area. I sometimes I want the next set of folks who come along to be "the ones;" the people you hang out with for hours, cook out with, raise kids with, drop by to drink coffee with, etc. We've really ever had one, maybe two couples around us like that, don't now, haven't in some time and miss it. We feel like we're in a friendship vacuum lately and can't really put a finger on it. The only hope I have right now is one day our circumstances will change, then it will all make sense, and "the ones" will be in our lives. Until then, the friendships I do have – those I've forged in person but are now distant or the ones we've discovered online – are more than sufficient. Sarah,
I tweeted earlier in the day to you that I agree with you – what I mean is I agree we need friends who don’t look act or always think like us. We’ll be better off in the long run for this and I think our lives will be more effective. I do think our core friendships should be with believers but we should also count as friends those outside the church as well.
I understand your comment about assessing future closeness – I’d say I expect too much in this area. I sometimes I want the next set of folks who come along to be “the ones;” the people you hang out with for hours, cook out with, raise kids with, drop by to drink coffee with, etc. We’ve really ever had one, maybe two couples around us like that, don’t now, haven’t in some time and miss it.
We feel like we’re in a friendship vacuum lately and can’t really put a finger on it. The only hope I have right now is one day our circumstances will change, then it will all make sense, and “the ones” will be in our lives. Until then, the friendships I do have – those I’ve forged in person but are now distant or the ones we’ve discovered online – are more than sufficient.

]]> By: Sarah Markley http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9206 Sarah Markley Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:19:31 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9206 thanks alisa. i think i have it. somewhat. in certain friends, in my bible study, and definitely online i've found some huge aspects of community... like here. =) thanks alisa.

i think i have it. somewhat.

in certain friends, in my bible study, and definitely online i’ve found some huge aspects of community…

like here. =)

]]> By: Sarah Markley http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9205 Sarah Markley Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:17:35 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9205 no! you're fine. i was just making sure i was clear in my post. =) no! you’re fine. i was just making sure i was clear in my post. =)

]]> By: Sarah Markley http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9204 Sarah Markley Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:16:54 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9204 gasp of horror (and then a wink) gasp of horror (and then a wink)

]]> By: Sarah Markley http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9203 Sarah Markley Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:16:19 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9203 laura, congratulations on your baby! i'm glad it's been more tangible lately. i can't imagine moving from OK to LA. what a change! don't give up on LA girlfriends. there's community here, we just have to find it, right? laura, congratulations on your baby! i’m glad it’s been more tangible lately.

i can’t imagine moving from OK to LA. what a change! don’t give up on LA girlfriends. there’s community here, we just have to find it, right?

]]> By: Sarah Markley http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9202 Sarah Markley Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:14:28 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9202 I don't live in a small community, but I do stay home. I agree - it can be so isolating. and i'm sorry that friendship has been difficult. by the way, I LOVE it when people don't care about my laundry. I think I might only have one or two like that in the world. thank you for commenting, kelly. I don’t live in a small community, but I do stay home. I agree – it can be so isolating.

and i’m sorry that friendship has been difficult. by the way, I LOVE it when people don’t care about my laundry. I think I might only have one or two like that in the world.

thank you for commenting, kelly.

]]> By: Sarah Markley http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9201 Sarah Markley Wed, 28 Oct 2009 03:12:22 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9201 i love blue streaks and you should have seen ME at the park yesterday. i'm just sayin'. =) i love blue streaks and you should have seen ME at the park yesterday.

i’m just sayin’. =)

]]> By: Amanda Sims http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2009/10/making-friends-an-example-for-community/comment-page-1/#comment-9199 Amanda Sims Tue, 27 Oct 2009 21:51:07 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=1300#comment-9199 I wish I could be like a 3 year old who just walks up to kids at the park and asks them to be friends. I tend to be the mom who sits alone on the bench watching the other mommies have a lovely chat, thinking how nice it would be to talk to them, but fearing immediate rejection at the attempt. Because I don't look like them. I don't have a size 6 body, designer clothes, a late-model car or a monogrammed {insert fashionable accessory here}. I'm way overweight, have blue streaks in my hair, and wear clothes for comfort instead of fashion. I'm strange that way. I still want friends too. Maybe I should stop thinking they're going to reject me because that is actually me rejecting them. Hm. Thanks Sarah. I wish I could be like a 3 year old who just walks up to kids at the park and asks them to be friends.

I tend to be the mom who sits alone on the bench watching the other mommies have a lovely chat, thinking how nice it would be to talk to them, but fearing immediate rejection at the attempt.

Because I don’t look like them.

I don’t have a size 6 body, designer clothes, a late-model car or a monogrammed {insert fashionable accessory here}.

I’m way overweight, have blue streaks in my hair, and wear clothes for comfort instead of fashion. I’m strange that way.

I still want friends too. Maybe I should stop thinking they’re going to reject me because that is actually me rejecting them.

Hm. Thanks Sarah.

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