She devours fact books like they’re pancakes on Saturday mornings.
Like how many seconds in a year. What polar bears eat. When Pluto was “discovered”. And why the Titanic sunk.
She asks, “Why DID the Titanic sink, Mom?”
So I try to bring up my memory of James Cameron’s behemoth film of 1997 and what I remember of an iceberg ripping a hole the size of New York in the side of the ocean liner. I explain that icebergs float with 90 percent of their mass beneath the water. I don’t tell her about Leo DiCaprio and Kate Winslet with blue lips in the water or about the lower class passengers drowning below deck.
“Did babies die?” She wonders.
“I’m not sure if there were babies on the ship,” I lie.
But then I realize that she can know that. She’s almost eight and she can know that.
I explain to her that there weren’t enough life boats and that the rich people stayed in staterooms with windows. That the poorer people weren’t allowed on the boats before the rich people escaped.
She decided, “I think babies died, Mom.”
“They might have, honey. I’m sorry. Does that make you sad?” I asked her.
She sighed the sigh of realizing that the world is not perfect, that people do bad things, that earth isn’t always filled with butterflies and ponies in a meadow.
“Yes. That makes me sad,” as she moves on to another page in her book. Insects’ olfactory glands or the lowest point on the globe.
But I’m left with a catch in my throat. Not because of the sinking of the Titanic almost 100 years ago and the babies that probably died. But because my daughter is quickly learning that hatred exists outside of the tiny world of her school playground and that there are bad, evil people in the world. And soon she’ll find out that even I can’t protect her from it all.
Babies die.
Those with the least money are given the short end of all the sticks.
Sometimes there aren’t enough life boats.
But I’m here, as her mother, to help her put the difficult pieces of the puzzle together, to guide her wild thoughts and to point her to the Answer that I can’t fully explain.
There is Hope and His name is Jesus.
*** Beth in the Heartland won the Shannon Etheridge giveaway. She says:
“Self-control…probably the fruit of the spirit I struggle with the most. Whether it’s controlling myself when standing before the holiday cookie platter, controlling my tongue when I am frustrated with my in-laws, controlling myself while disciplining my 2 young children…I always, ALWAYS could use more self control. I’m intrigued by these books and will be looking them up at my local library. Thanks for the tip.”
Congratulations, Beth!!











Praise God for the Saviour of our souls, Jesus………..
Amen. Another tough parenting role but I believe to be the absolute highest calling (this and getting them to sleep through the night as quickly as possible)……kidding kinda. Helping our children navigate through this world with God as their compass. Merry Christmas Sarah!
I love this post SO much Sarah!
I have read it through a few times today.
Wow, this is beautifully put. My son, at 6 1/2, seems to be on this verge of such harsh reality. Our world. Thank God for Jesus. Thank God.
That was beautiful Sarah. You have such a wonderful way of putting my thoughts into words! I was thinking much the same thing about Ellie the other day. Someone mentioned that they were getting ready to “put their animal to sleep.” I saw the question in her eyes, and gave her a tiny sign that we’d talk later. When we did, it was sad. Sad to tell my daughter what that meant. Sad to see the pain in her eyes. And most of all, sad to see innocence slipping away, and reality taking it’s place. She handled it so well though, and I am proud of her for that. It makes me sad though, that this is just the beginning. You are right though, there is hope in Jesus!
Congrats Beth!
and Sarah….
May you have a wonderful Christmas day and looking forward to visiting your World again in 2010.
HUGS and wishes,
Char
i am living in that Hope!