Comments on: Heavy Hooves http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/ The Best Days of My Life Wed, 08 Feb 2012 22:17:12 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v= By: Amy http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18567 Amy Tue, 13 Jul 2010 14:58:22 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18567 Sarah - I love your blog - found it from another, not sure which. Immediately I was drawn to your story. I am a victim of adultery. My husband was involved with another woman, emotionally, for months, confessed, told me he broke it off, only to continue to lie for another several months. I want you to know - THIS victim of adultery does not hate you. She loves your honesty, your ability to be candid, and your struggles with the past. What I love MOST about your blog is it challenges me to be a better wife, (step)mother, woman, and Christian. Thank you!! :) Sarah –
I love your blog – found it from another, not sure which. Immediately I was drawn to your story. I am a victim of adultery. My husband was involved with another woman, emotionally, for months, confessed, told me he broke it off, only to continue to lie for another several months.

I want you to know – THIS victim of adultery does not hate you. She loves your honesty, your ability to be candid, and your struggles with the past.

What I love MOST about your blog is it challenges me to be a better wife, (step)mother, woman, and Christian. Thank you!! :)

]]> By: Sarah Markley http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18547 Sarah Markley Tue, 13 Jul 2010 04:43:20 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18547 wow, thank you so much stephanie!! wow, thank you so much stephanie!!

]]> By: Stephanie http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18541 Stephanie Tue, 13 Jul 2010 01:16:20 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18541 Hi Sarah and Chad I just wanted to let you both know that I am blessed by your story and testimony. My mom cheated on my dad when I was 8 yrs old to when I was approx 10 yrs old. (Im 40 now) and I have seen God miraculously restore their relationship too. My father became an ordained minister when I was in my teens and he earned his Dr.degree in Theology three years ago .My mom has been a pastors wife and a blessing to many.What the enemy tried to ruin God stepped in and restored. Sarah, I appreciate and enjoy your blog daily. Joyfully Stephanie Hi Sarah and Chad

I just wanted to let you both know that I am blessed by your story and testimony. My mom cheated on my dad when I was 8 yrs old to when I was approx 10 yrs old. (Im 40 now) and I have seen God miraculously restore their relationship too. My father became an ordained minister when I was in my teens and he earned his Dr.degree in Theology three years ago .My mom has been a pastors wife and a blessing to many.What the enemy tried to ruin God stepped in and restored. Sarah, I appreciate and enjoy your blog daily.

Joyfully
Stephanie

]]> By: Debbie Feller http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18539 Debbie Feller Mon, 12 Jul 2010 23:41:51 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18539 I just wanted to chime in too here, with Sarah and Chad. There was something you said, Chad, at the end. That was beautiful. And meaningful. We don't dwell, we remember. I'm reading in Exodus and thinking about when that generation died and the next didn't remember all that God had done, so they turned away. . .We always, always need to remember what He has done. Thank you for helping us with that! :) love in Jesus, deb I just wanted to chime in too here, with Sarah and Chad. There was something you said, Chad, at the end. That was beautiful. And meaningful. We don’t dwell, we remember. I’m reading in Exodus and thinking about when that generation died and the next didn’t remember all that God had done, so they turned away. . .We always, always need to remember what He has done. Thank you for helping us with that! :) love in Jesus, deb

]]> By: chad http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18538 chad Mon, 12 Jul 2010 23:18:29 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18538 Hi Lauren, I figured your statement is a good one for me to chime in on. I agree with you, dwelling is never good. It gets you stuck in a place and it makes moving on with life very difficult. However, you need to be careful not to confuse dwelling with rembering an event. Sarah and I have been very intentional about moving forward in our marriage and life on this side of our mutual moral failures. But we are as intentional about keeping a clear sight on what we have been through. It we don't keep fresh what we have been through we suffer the risk of repeating our past. Another reason the affair and our previous life is a constant topic on this blog is because a community of people has grown around this story. Not because we are anything special but because we made it through the crisis and are still intact! This has attracted people trying to avoid the same pitfalls, others that are in the throws of failure, some trying to put the pieces of their lives and marriages back together and those that observe and lend support. We are a community of fallen people that serve a Great God. We don't dwell, we remember. Hi Lauren, I figured your statement is a good one for me to chime in on.

I agree with you, dwelling is never good. It gets you stuck in a place and it makes moving on with life very difficult. However, you need to be careful not to confuse dwelling with rembering an event. Sarah and I have been very intentional about moving forward in our marriage and life on this side of our mutual moral failures. But we are as intentional about keeping a clear sight on what we have been through. It we don’t keep fresh what we have been through we suffer the risk of repeating our past.

Another reason the affair and our previous life is a constant topic on this blog is because a community of people has grown around this story. Not because we are anything special but because we made it through the crisis and are still intact! This has attracted people trying to avoid the same pitfalls, others that are in the throws of failure, some trying to put the pieces of their lives and marriages back together and those that observe and lend support.

We are a community of fallen people that serve a Great God. We don’t dwell, we remember.

]]> By: No. 17 Cherry Tree Lane http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18537 No. 17 Cherry Tree Lane Mon, 12 Jul 2010 22:59:31 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18537 This post was so timely to what I am going through right now. I decided to take a risk and give up my blog. It has proved to be one of the most difficult things I have had to do, but I know that the Lord will teach me through it. Guide me and reveal himself. This post was so timely to what I am going through right now.
I decided to take a risk and give up my blog. It has proved to be one of the most difficult things I have had to do, but I know that the Lord will teach me through it. Guide me and reveal himself.

]]> By: Daniela B. http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18536 Daniela B. Mon, 12 Jul 2010 20:27:44 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18536 Dear Sarah and Chad I am Daniela writing from northern Italy.I really want to thank you for the help you gave me in those last days when I discovered that my boyfriend had cheated on me..it was an horrible situation and feeling, but I' m trying to focus on the grace side of him and we are trying to heal our relationship (we have been together for 4 yers).Your story really helped me to forgive him and what he has done..it will be a long journey to reconnet after this but I'm hopefull reading your story.Thank you so much for your example.I linked to your blog writing this post yesterday evening after having spoked with my boyfriedn about our sad situation and decided to go on and err on the grace side with him! http://ilcoltellodibanjas.blogspot.com/2010/07/err-on-grace-side.html Hugs Daniela Dear Sarah and Chad I am Daniela writing from northern Italy.I really want to thank you for the help you gave me in those last days when I discovered that my boyfriend had cheated on me..it was an horrible situation and feeling, but I’ m trying to focus on the grace side of him and we are trying to heal our relationship (we have been together for 4 yers).Your story really helped me to forgive him and what he has done..it will be a long journey to reconnet after this but I’m hopefull reading your story.Thank you so much for your example.I linked to your blog writing this post yesterday evening after having spoked with my boyfriedn about our sad situation and decided to go on and err on the grace side with him!
http://ilcoltellodibanjas.blogspot.com/2010/07/err-on-grace-side.html
Hugs Daniela

]]> By: Connie Gomez http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18535 Connie Gomez Mon, 12 Jul 2010 19:40:31 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18535 Sarah. I just wanted to say that your story leaves me in awe every time I read it. I have never been a victim or cheated but that doesn't matter...what I admire is number one your COURAGE to tell the story....that I am not sure I would have... and number two... your GRACE and Blessings in the aftermath... Just a reminder...that you shouldn't fear...and I don't hate you....ever.... Sarah. I just wanted to say that your story leaves me in awe every time I read it. I have never been a victim or cheated but that doesn’t matter…what I admire is number one your COURAGE to tell the story….that I am not sure I would have… and number two… your GRACE and Blessings in the aftermath… Just a reminder…that you shouldn’t fear…and I don’t hate you….ever….

]]> By: m http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18532 m Mon, 12 Jul 2010 19:10:50 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18532 I don't hate you at all, nor do I hate my husband(not implying anything at all with you two together- promise). Just sin & the insecutirties it can bring. I don’t hate you at all, nor do I hate my husband(not implying anything at all with you two together- promise). Just sin & the insecutirties it can bring.

]]> By: Amanda http://www.sarahmarkley.com/2010/07/heavy-hooves/comment-page-1/#comment-18531 Amanda Mon, 12 Jul 2010 18:59:12 +0000 http://www.sarahmarkley.com/?p=3244#comment-18531 Sarah, thank you so much again for this. I love reading your posts everyday. You are such an encouragment, thank you for not holding back! Love you! Sarah, thank you so much again for this. I love reading your posts everyday. You are such an encouragment, thank you for not holding back! Love you!

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