When we say
I can handle it,
I don’t need any help,
we make ourselves out to be some kind of superheroes. No soul can live up to that.
I think when we do this we reduce the depth of our humanity and we do others a disservice. We present a false face.
And when we cover over our humanity with ointments and facelifts, when we shoot botox into the wrinkles of our very natures, we dishonor one another.
We puff ourselves up with a inaccurate sense of strength when in actuality we are bones and flesh, sinews and nerves, eyelashes fluttering and hearts gently beating in chests. We are tears and laughter and hangnails and warts. We are humans with finite minds and finite bodies and finite time, yet we claim we can do it all.
And that we can do it all alone.
When will realize that we cannot make it on our own and that we are simply human? When will we stop saying YES to every question and YES to every project as if we were the hero tasked with saving the city. We chant YES YES YES as if it is only us who can make life happen.
And as we do this, we breathe lies into what others think we are and what others think they must live up to.
When we live like this it as if we are telling the world that they must be a superhero too.
Let’s live real, like the humans we are. The ones who get angry sometimes, who drink one too many drinks once in awhile, the ones who can’t get along with their in-laws at Christmas. Let’s live real like we really are people who leave their laundry on the floor and who sometimes binge on bagels and butter before dinner. Let’s live real and acknowledge the hurts that others have wounded us with and be honest about the pain, but let’s give grace as well.
Let’s not cover our human faces with a mask that belongs to someone else because our human faces are, in fact, more beautiful than anything else.
Do you have a superhero complex? Do you, like me, say yes to too much and take on life as if you are invincible?