I’ve been learning how to embrace myself lately and realize I am a gift to the world. Not in a rich-kids-of-Instagram sort of way, but in a way that is helping me become comfortable with how God has made me.
I am thoroughly convinced that we behave the best, we walk in the most confidence, and we love with the most heart when we are comfortable in our own skins.
If you’ve ever had someone tell you (or if you’ve ever told yourself) you are TOO…
unorganized, sensitive, quiet.
It is only because that TOO-ness about you makes that person in some way feel uncomfortable. It tells them something about themselves that maybe they don’t want to come to terms with.
Your TOO-ness highlights something in that other person that gives them discomfort. Your quietness highlights the fact that they feel too loud, your unorganized home reminds them that they live a life that feels too controlled and maybe your sensitive heart makes that person feel harsh and unfeeling.
Every Saturday my six-year-old takes the soccer ball down the field. This is her third year on a team sport and she is still on a journey to learn what it means to play well with others.
I never understood this about her before but she highly competitive. That idea is so other to me because my most comfortable place as a little girl was with a book in one hand and a bag of Legos in the other.
Competition just doesn’t make sense to me.
Unbridled competitiveness has gotten her in a bit of trouble, however. She’s elbowed other players that get in her way, she’s lobbed a soccer ball at the head of another little girl who made a goal in practice and she regularly gives the other team the I’m-going-to-take-you-down stare at a game.
It’s perfect. Her competitiveness has been directed and she is a gift to the team. Without fear she jumps on the ball as it comes into the goal, she picks it and passes it to a player. She loves the honor of being the goalie and she can still be herself in all her competitive glory, but in a place where there is less temptation for her to trip another six-year-old girl.
She’s a gift. And so is her innate drive to win.
How dare I tell her to dial it back, but I do have the responsibility as her mother to help channel it correctly.
I think too many of us have been told that the unique pieces of us, the ones that shout, are too brilliant for the world. That they are TOO much and that we must stifle the parts that were made to shine.
Don’t you dare dull what was made to be brilliant.
You were born to be sensitive, to be competitive or to be loud. You were born to love deeply or to think before you speak. You were born to be joyful or serious or unpredictable. You were born that way and you are one of God’s gifts to this world.
If you stifle those parts of you you are stifling the parts that God has intended to give to the rest of humanity.
Yes I should channel and hone and bring the wild parts of me to a place of ease and rest, but by no means shall I say any longer that I am not born to be this way.
So let us all embrace ourselves and thank God for the big and brilliant parts of us. Let us stop apologizing for the TOO-ness of ourselves. And when someone wants to stifle us, let us take it in with wisdom and wonder if that piece of us may need some channeling. But let us never, ever choose to break those parts and leave behind the beauty that God intended for us to share with others.
Remember, you are a gift to this world.
Have you ever been told you were TOO-something? Is it hard to recognize what needs channeling and what needs to be embraced?