I’m very skilled at doing a lot but not very skilled at asking for help.
Asking for help means that I’m weak and it’s an admission that I can’t do it alone. Asking for help means that I must be dependent and being dependent isn’t sexy. Asking for help means that somehow I have a lack that I must rely on others to fill.
But asking for help is not for weak, in fact, it is for the strong. None of us were made to live alone.
For me to live in a way that is fully me, with my rhythms of busy and quiet and high energy and low, I need others to help me. I’m just now figuring that out.
I can’t be me without other people helping me to be me. I can’t rest without other people helping me to rest. I can’t do any of it by myself.
I need my mother to take my six year old on a walk so I can sleep away an autumn cold. I need my husband to help my daughter with her homework. I need my friend to do the school-pickup once in awhile and I need my sister to whisk me away for night out from the kids sometimes for a glass of wine.
I need the help of others to rest and sometimes it is very, very hard to ask.
But when I do, I allow others to help in the building of me, in the shaping of me, and in the growing of me.
Do you find it hard to ask for help?
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This post feels like it was written just for me. I often have a hard time asking for help because it makes me feel weak. One area I really struggle with is with weightloss and it’s the hardest to ask for help with that because I want to succeed in it but often feel like a failure and I do worry that my asking for help will cause others to be reminded that I’m still struggling with some of the same issues. Thank you for the reminder that asking for help is a good thing and will serve in making me stronger!
asking for help is a good thing! hoping you find the support and help you need, heather. thank you for leaving such an honest comment -=)
Hi Sarah! I’m new here via Twitter. I had to stop by when I saw we blogged on the same topic today! I absoultely love what you say about how “I can’t be me without other people helping me to be me.” I’m not going to forget that one anytime soon.
yay ! I’m so glad you are here! =)
I come from a long line of women who do not ask for help. It’s a very difficult cycle to break. What I’ve witnessed is more than enough breakdowns in health, emotions, and life when they haven’t asked for help. I have not been doing such a good job of it thus far; however, I’m learning that it’s important to ask and if I’m not heard I ask again. Like you said, “I can’t be me without other people helping me to be me”. Yes! THIS!
hat is a hard cycle to break. and often it looks like humility, right? i’m right there with you, nadine! =)