When we watercolor, which we don’t do as much as we should, the dip of the brush into the color and then into the water doesn’t dirty the drink, it makes it brilliant.
It’s easy to see how one small molecule of color can pigment the whole thing. It bleeds and breeds more of itself, it seems, until the whole cup is blushed blue or red with the single plunge of the paintbrush.
The same is true of honesty. Confession and honesty breeds more confession and honesty, I believe. It dyes the world around it a more brilliant shade of true.
I stood at the car window of a friend a couple weeks ago after I’d written the post (that one broke me open) about my marriage. She’s one of my closest friends and I hadn’t ever been able to find the right words to talk about it with her until after I’d written that post.
“So talk to me,” or something like that she said. “What’s going on?” I knew it was safe to talk to her because she loved me and I’d already been brutally honest and vulnerable that day. Honesty breeds more honesty.
So I did. And I think she still loves me. Loves my family. I’m pretty sure she still sees me the same. Good friends do that: love us during the easy and through the hard. And vulnerability breeds more vulnerability.
I spent several phone calls that week with close girl friends with whom I’d never before been able to share this ugly part of my life. And it was so so good. I’m learning that when a breakthrough happens, it’s easy to then break through more barriers in other areas of my life. Openness comes easier. The words come out without the same filters as I’d been placing on them before and it gives, not just my internet community, but my dearest friends the ability to walk with me in an even more intimate way.
When we are honest with ourselves and honest to others, it makes the world around us a more honest place. We inspire others to do things honestly and maybe even we ourselves can be more open with the people that matter the most.
I’m not hoping for greatness today, but I am hoping to stain the world around me today with a little more honesty and a little more vulnerability. And honesty can only make us shine more brilliantly.