Our Marriage Story

Almost 3 years ago I took a risk and a jump and a leap and I told the story of my own defeat and the death of my marriage. I confessed my own infidelity to the online world and ever since, its been a bit of a journey. Here’s the story I told.

I’m in the middle of updating it a bit and hopefully it will appear in a longer project I’m currently working on in a more streamlined, concise form. Since then, because of our experience in personal marital recovery, I’ve had the privilege of speaking to many women, both in private and on stages, about God’s healing and amazing grace.

My Marriage Posts

The Fine Line Between Friendship and Emotional Affairs: This post has been one of my most popular. I write about the sometimes hard to distinguish difference between a friend and an emotional affair.

Staying Found {Avoiding Emotional Affairs}: Because, let’s face it, it’s easier than one would think to fall into one. I’m writing about how to avoid them and stay “found” to yourself and your spouse.

Taking Your Marriage Pulse (Six Questions): Six questions that help couples discover how they are doing now in their relationship.

Your Friend is Having an Affair: What to do, what not to do if you are a support person of a couple walking through marital crisis.

Because You Asked: You asked a lot of questions about marriage recovery and what our experience was during that time. I wrote a post about what recovery and healing looked like for us.

I’m Not Ashamed Anymore: The video Chad and I recorded the week after we shared our story online. It clarifies a few things and gives a face to “us” as a couple.

Hard Questions You’ve Probably Never Asked Yours Spouse, But Should: Five serious discussion starters for couples. These are some difficult questions that no couple should avoid. Part 1, Part 2

What I Wished I’d Known About Marriage: I’m talking about four things that I wished I’d learned before I stood at the altar.

Marriage Series for the Allume blog: I wrote three posts about marriage for the Allume Social blog. Honesty, Grace, and Community

Living with an ADD Spouse: My husband, Chad, has Attention Deficit Disorder and although we have managed to make it all work, we struggle with some of the ADD symptoms on a daily basis.

Connection: How to stay connected during brief periods of separation (travel, etc)

Boundaries {Backyard Version}: What relationship boundaries look like for us.

Temptation is a Friendly Old Lady: My post about avoiding extra-marital temptation in everyday life.

The Same Page of the Same Book: Because marriage is really, at its core, about walking forward in the same direction.

Other Marriage Resources

1. Healing and Resources : books that helped us in our marriage

2. Watch the video about our story.

2. Cindy Beall’s book: Healing Your Marriage When Trust is Broken. My friend Cindy writes about her own story {and ours is tucked in there too} of surviving infidelity.